This blog explores the concept that healing is not about achieving a perfect state but about accepting and growing from our imperfections. It encourages a shift from striving for an unattainable ideal to embracing the journey of healing being aware that healing is not a quest for perfection rather an exploration and an inquiry into our state of being.

Healing: Not a Quest for Perfection

“Will this pain ever stop?” “When will I be perfectly healed?”

These are questions I hear quite often in my ThetaHealing practice. While I don’t understand the connection between healing and perfection, I am certain that the more work we do on ourselves, the better we become at understanding our pain and releasing its hold on our lives.

If someone claims to have cracked the code of ‘being perfectly healed’ to sell their service, I personally would run away from that individual and their offer.

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Seeking Perfection: A Trap

I understand the obsession many of us have with the word ‘perfection’ or ‘being perfect.’ Society has conditioned us to constantly seek perfection in everything we do. We chase an idealized state where pain is absent, and every aspect of our lives is flawless. Rather than embracing our pain and discomfort as opportunities for growth, we often view them as enemies to be eliminated. This mindset only amplifies our suffering instead of helping us learn from it.

The quest of perfection comes from our collective consciousness and society conditioning. This relentless pursuit often stems from a deep-seated belief that perfection is synonymous with success, acceptance, and worthiness. From a young age, we are conditioned with messages that equate flawlessness with desirability—be it in academics, appearance, or behavior.

The media amplifies this narrative, showcasing airbrushed images and dreamy characters (ever watched a K-drama romantic hero?) that set unrealistic standards. Social platforms further change our perception, as we consume 10-second reels based on the lives of other people, mistaking them for the whole story. This can lead to a sense of inadequacy and a constant striving for a perfection that doesn’t truly exist.

What is Healing?

Imperfection is the natural state of all things. The beauty of a sunset lies in its ever-changing hues, not in a singular, perfect moment. Similarly, our imperfections—our mistakes, and unique traits—are what make us human and connect us to one another. Self-healing isn’t about having everything figured out or striving for perfection. In my view, self-healing involves being present with our emotions, understanding them, and gaining insight into ourselves in the process.

Healing is about decoding our past experiences, understanding our current situation, and taking responsibility for the life we’ve created. It is not about achieving a state of perfection but about recognizing and embracing our inherent imperfections. It’s about understanding that our scars, both physical and emotional, are there to teach us a lesson and to make our personal journey easy. They tell the story of resilience, of mistakes made, failures experienced and lessons learned. Healing is about self-acceptance, about finding peace with who we are, and about growing from our experiences.

Perfection in Healing can be Isolating:

The pursuit of perfection can be isolating, as it often involves setting standards that are out of sync with the reality of our lives and the people in them. Healing,  is a journey that thrives on support, empathy, and shared experiences. It’s about connecting with others, sharing our vulnerabilities, and finding strength in collective journey.

We know we are on the right path and making progress when we find peace not in the absence of turmoil but in our ability to navigate it. Each time we engage in self-work, we elevate our energy and consciousness. This prepares us to respond to difficult emotions or challenges with balance and clarity when they arise.

When we connect to our self deeply, we discover strength in our capacity to be in touch with our emotions, recover and adapt. It’s about setting realistic goals, celebrating small victories, and being kind to ourselves when we fall short. It’s is a journey where we understand that every failure is an opportunity to learn and that every setback paves the way for growth.

Healing is a Continuous Journey:

Remember, healing is a continuous journey and it is about coming back to home. Being in touch with our emotions, living in the present moment without creating unnecessary suffering, allows pain to become a friend rather than an enemy in our lives.

So the next time someone tells you that you need to be perfectly healed in order to be happy, remind yourself that you are allowed to shift your focus from being ‘perfect’ to being present, from being flawless to being authentic. Let’s redefine happiness not by the absence of imperfection but by the presence of genuine effort and self-compassion. In doing so, we may find that our obsession with perfection was the very thing holding us back from true healing and feeling whole.

Author Sana Naseem is a ThetaHealing Instructor and offer Practitioner seminars and consultations worldwide. You can become a part of the community of like-minded individuals who, like you, seek a life filled with meaning, happiness and purpose. In our ThetaHealing Practitioner Certification Trainings, we guide you on a transformative journey that opens up your life to new possibilities, allowing you to see your true self and live without the burdens of guilt, regrets, and resentments.

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